The last Sultan of Zanzibar had 360 concubines! That’s almost one female per night of the year. Eunuchs guarded the harem not to prevent the girls escaping but to prevent men entering to service these sex starved gathering of girls who were definitely not getting their fill. The current King of Swaziland has six wives and eight “princesses” living with him at the palace. Do those young women get sexual fulfilment? The ex-president of South Africa, has 6 wives in true Zulu tradition and many mistresses. Are they satisfied or do they look elsewhere for gratification?
Mormons the world over are allowed multiple wives. Can one husband do bedroom justice to so many sexually demanding women? Likewise, Muslims can take four wives who live in separate houses. Are they satisfied or are they dependent on lesbian sex or vibrator relief?
In contrast to the above there is a tribe in China that one woman takes two men (usually blood brothers). She lives in the village with one partner while the other man works for say two weeks of the month on the country farm then they switch so she gets the other man to join her in bed and minister to her sexual demands. Now to me this sounds highly civilised. Two men servicing the sexual requirements of one woman. I’m sure she always has a smile on her face
Before the arrival of “Christian” missionaries in the South Pacific islands the island tribes did not have marriages but bred as a tribe. After the annual harvest of the sweet potato or taro crop there was a festival. During the festival week bands of 5 young girls would seek out a young man and each girl in turn would have sex with the boy. They would then hunt down another boy and another throughout the week until all the girls had slept with all the boys. When they fell pregnant the child was a child of the tribe as they could not ascertain the biological father. It was a matriarchal society where the females were the sexual aggressors and initiators.
So my philosophy in this 21st century with much more liberated bedroom ideas is that as opposed to the male having multiple female partners the women should have multiple male partners. Can you imagine a female living with say four men? They each go out to work every day so the household income quadruples. They come back to take their turn with the woman be it one-on-one or even more exciting for the woman all four men in bed with the woman. A gangbang every night!
References to cuckolding appear in literature as early as the 13th century. Today, however, cuckolding has become a powerful sexual fantasy for some men, who get aroused by the idea of their romantic partner engaging in sexual activity with someone else. Women also share this fantasy, but less so than men. This cuckold fantasy has been around as long as marriage and sexuality but we’re hearing more and more about it these days, and more people are rejecting the social stigma against this fantasy. Men are more likely to fantasize about cuckolding, and they do it more often but there are a number of women who have these fantasies as well.
Part of what makes cuckolding arousing for heterosexual men is that they tend to view it as a taboo act. In a society or culture that idealizes monogamy, the cuckold fantasy is available to people to conceptualize their sexual fantasies. It’s a sexual desire that can be easily customized to meet a wide range of sexual needs and desires, whether it’s taboo sex, novelty, voyeurism or something else.
The emotions surrounding seeing your partner with someone else can be a huge turn-on. It’s not cuckolding if there isn’t an element of small cock humiliation, degradation or denial. Our erotic imaginations have the ability to turn shame lemons into delicious kink lemonade.”
Overall, research found that for the most part, cuckolding tends to be a positive fantasy and behaviour. Remember that sometimes just sharing a sexy thought can be arousing enough — you don’t have to follow through. If you are thinking about acting on a cuckolding fantasy, it’s worth stepping back first and making sure your relationship is in a good place and that you have strong sexual communication skills.
For men and couples considering the issue of cuckolding, it’s important there be honesty, integrity, communication, mutuality and shared values. For couples who do decide to move forward, it’s important to take things slow. The reality of watching your spouse have sex with someone else — or knowing they’re doing it, if you’re not there — is often very different than the fantasy. It can dredge up powerful emotions, so take baby steps and keep talking and communicating. That said, the rewards can be amazing, according to couples who have successfully folded cuckold play into their relationships.
Cuckolding is often seen from the outside as a kink founded in humiliation and inadequacy of the male partner but the reality is far different and pleasurable for most couples actively involved in cuckolding. Cuckolding takes the foundation of a stable, loving marriage and extends it to include one or more males who play a specific, sexual role within the relationship. Contrary to popular myth sexual inadequacy is only a significant factor in a minority of cuckold couples. For most couples, sharing her is a loving way to expand the boundaries of their relationship and safely explore a more natural approach to human sexuality and relationships.
Cuckolding is a wife-centric rewarding experience for all involved and makes a loving cuckold marriage dynamic. Wife, husband, and boyfriend are all involved. The wife is being touched, reassured, and pleased by both men and in return, is pleasing them both – just in different ways. Inviting another male into the marriage exercises and builds the marital bonds just as physical exercise does for fitness. When practiced properly, cuckolding will bring a couple closer together & greatly increase intimacy despite of and also because of the intimacy the wife now shares with another.
The realization of a cuckold relationship is centred on sexual pleasure where the dynamics of each person’s pleasure is important but decided much differently. Though with a different man, the wife’s desire for full pleasure is easy to understand being the focus. The cuckold’s pleasure, however, is less understood in the public eye because of the desire for sexual denial by his wife, needed to intensify his own sexual arousal, along with her to be openly pleased by another bigger and better man.
Not exactly the ‘normal’ marital bedroom setting. As a minimum, the denial is a strict control of his pleasure, usually resulting in the relinquishing of sexual intercourse. Or to put it more bluntly, his penis will not be providing the full sexual pleasure needed by his wife, nor as she sees fit, letting him have his pleasure by penetration into her pussy. How this is enforced is usually left to the wife and her making an empowered statement to the cuckold about deliberate sexual needs and control, and devotion to knowing her pleasure is most important above his.
Nevertheless, it is still important that the cuckold should experience some sexual pleasure (or relief) with the occasion and manner as agreed by the wife and fitting to the intimacy of the cuckold relationship. To this, the wife can settle to only satisfy in a ‘mechanical’ manner where she is involved literally taking care of the matter ‘at hand’ and very efficiently ‘draining’ the cuckold male. The cuck is normally not allowed to masturbate. When being the dutiful wife is very apt at using her hands in assisting with the task of the cuck’s relief.
It’s a very common fantasy, actually. There is no shame in your fantasy game. In modern day, it’s become a popular fantasy. Many men are turned on by seeing their female partner pleasured by another man. It’s a form of submission for the cuckold in which he derives pleasure from being humiliated. And, its popularity is on the rise. Research found that “cuckold porn” is the second most searched heterosexual porn category on the internet. Fantasies are a great tool in any romantic relationship – especially one that has lasted. One may have to mix things up, try new things, and go outside of your comfort zone from time to time. Sharing and acting out your fantasies with a loving, committed partner is a great, safe way to do that. The first thing to keep in mind is this: There is no shame in your fantasy game. Shame causes repression, which usually leads to either acting out and infidelity or a lot of self-loathing.
Assure her that if you go down this cuckold road, it won’t threaten your relationship. Let her know that this comes from a desire for you to see her experience more pleasure, pleasure that maybe the current partner can no longer supply and to grow your fantasy sex life together. There is a need to introduce her to the concept little by little. After talking with her about it, see if she’d be open to taking baby steps by simply watching a cuckold porn film together. From there, you can bring up the idea of having a man give her a sensual massage as you watch.
You might want to consider a few other things here. Sexuality is a spectrum and it’s broadening every day. It’s not black and white. There are, dare I say, many shades of gray. Polyamory and other forms of non-monogamy such as open marriages are not entirely taboo. Is this a way for you to expand your own sexual boundaries and experiment with bisexuality? Your sexual preferences can always evolve even if you’ve been married for 30 years.
Ultimately, this is the point of cuckolding. Whoever your wife ends up with should fuck her better than you ever have (or at the very least better than you typically do or did). It should be mind-blowing, body-shaking sex that leaves her tingling from head to toe after a powerful orgasm has washed over her body in waves. Isn’t that what you want? Isn’t that ultimately what drives your desire? Don’t you want your wife to fuck someone that’s bigger and better than you? Don’t you want her to whisper into your ear how much better he felt, how much harder he made her cum?
This is pretty true for all of you cuckolds out there who are looking for your wife to become your Hotwife … it’s not that wives don’t like sex or are 100% against having sex with someone else (though some wives are) … it is mostly about you and whether or not we can trust you … trust that you won’t lose your cool when you see your wife cum … hard and often … on a bigger, better cock … and that later, you are not going to tell us we are a slut because we fulfilled your fantasy … and many other involved issues … if you want us to cuckold you … then we need to be able to trust you and the communication skills have to be excellent … if all that is true, then you can build an even more amazing relationship with your wife … but we must be able to really trust you first
Trust her … at this moment … even with her cuckold husband sitting in the corner … his little white dick painfully erect … his mouth hanging open as he watches his sexy, sweet, once innocent wife cumming over and over again on that bigger, better black cock … she doesn’t even know her husband is in the room or what his name is … she can only think about one thing … the approaching orgasm and how hard she is going to cum … again and again … all night long … all the while her cuckold husband’s little dick gently weeps … his obviously precum giving away just how excited he is watching the woman he loves having the sexual evening of her life … It is good to be the hotwife married to such a cuckold.
Once the wife has done this a few times … as much as her cuckold husband is humiliated and embarrassed … it really puts her black studs into over drive … almost like they fuck her all the harder and better … to show her and her little dick cuckold husband … what he can never give her … a win-win for everybody as it helps the cuckold husband….and remember that it is his little dick is the reason why she fucks bigger, better black guys in the first place and … it reminds her just how much she loves fucking bigger, better black guys with great big cocks …
Once he’d gotten his full nine inches inside your wife, his slightest movement sent paroxysms of intense pleasure through her. The power-ramming, headboard-banging, pillow-biting nine inch long-stroking would come later that night after he’d taken her upstairs to your bedroom. For now, he was just letting her get used to a world she didn’t even know existed and what was worse…you knew that sexually…she was already his.
The best way to start is with the wife slowly stroking your cuckold-to-be-husband…bringing him along slowly…watching some interracial porn…commenting on the bigger black cocks…remarking…innocently …how much harder girls cum on big cocks…edging him to the brink of orgasm…over and over again…until he’ll do anything you want…soon you’ll have him as your cuckold…ruining him for all other women if you do it right…
This one was a real eye opener for her … when she first came across it, she just assumed that her cuckold husband would pass this test … don’t get her wrong, she knew he was small … but she thought he was bigger than a toilet roll … so she had him do the test while she watched … She was shocked when his whole dick fitted inside except for just the tiniest bit of the head of his dick peeking out the other end … it was then that she really started to realize just how small his dick really was …
Turns out, there exists an even more outrageous, rule-breaking scenario: one in which the cuckold in question not only knows, but heartily approves of his wife’s infidelities. This is because the term “cuckold” accurately refers a man who derives sexual enjoyment and pleasure from hearing and fantasizing about, or witnessing his female partner’s sexual encounters with other men. At the same time, the cuckold himself remains faithful.
Cuckolding is rightly considered to be a mostly male-driven fantasy. When researching cuckolding for this article it was found that in roughly 75% of cases it’s the men who first bring up the idea of cuckolding to their female partners. And while for many cuckolding forever remains an exciting but unattainable fantasy, some couples manage to put it into practice. In this way, cuckolding can be considered part of the consensual non-monogamy spectrum.
Similarly, the female partners range in their interests from simply having sex with other men with their husbands’ enthusiastic approval (in which case the term “hotwife” is most often used to describe the woman), to exerting complete sexual dominance over their cuckold partner (here, “cuckoldress” is the more frequently used term). If you are a woman whose partner has admitted to having a cuckold fantasy, it’s likely that the next step will be him asking if you’d like to put it into practice. In this, cuckolding is unique, since the power to make it happen in real life resides primarily with the female partner.
Cuckolding is as challenging as it is exciting, and making it work in real life means starting out with a foundation of a strong relationship, emotional maturity, trust, mutual compassion and respect, and continuously flowing, open communication. Just like with any consensually non-monogamous relationship, bringing in new partners means adding responsibility of expert knowledge, skill, and adherence to the governing principles of safe, sane and consensual sex.
But, for the right couple and the right relationship, cuckolding can be incredibly hot, exciting and rewarding. Here are some examples of how cuckolding can benefit you and your relationship:
- A stronger bond between the primary couple.In research, many couples reported strong feelings of unity and connection after starting to practice cuckolding. Many also reported having more appreciation for each other and better communication in their intimate relationship. This often leads to a renewed sense of trust, closeness and togetherness, all of which are all hugely beneficial for the long-term health of a relationship.
- More exciting sex between the cuckold and his female partner. Most couples who practice cuckolding have been together for a long time, often 10 years or longer. For them, cuckolding breathes new and exciting life into a relationship that, while loving and committed, may feel a bit boring and stale. The voyeuristic and taboo nature of cuckolding, can open endless possibilities for exciting, titillating and highly satisfying sexual experiences.
- Greater sexual satisfaction for the female partner. In research, women who successfully engaged in cuckolding overwhelmingly reported feeling more sexually fulfilled and satisfied than ever before. Variety is the spice of life, and cuckolding offers ample opportunity for women to enjoy a selection of enthusiastic sexual partners. Some of these men (also called “bulls”) may provide particular sexual skills that these women’s primary partners do not possess; or they may fulfil additional sexual fantasies and desires, like being dominated, or having sex with a man with a substantially larger penis. No matter the specifics, women who engage in cuckolding often get access to more frequent, enthusiastic, and satisfying sex.
- Increased empowerment and confidence.When done right, cuckolding can be incredibly empowering to a woman. While our society still struggles with the idea of women enjoying sex for its own sake, a hotwife or cuckoldress has the freedom to enjoy sexual pleasure with a variety of eager partners. The positive impact of this new-found confidence potentially extends further than the woman herself. Her cuckold partner also reaps the benefits of a woman who is assertive, voracious, and unapologetically sexy: all the qualities that make sex with her so much more exciting and pleasurable.
Cuckolding when approached and practiced thoughtfully can be a real gift to a couple who choose to bring it into their relationship. In addition to being extremely sexually satisfying, cuckolding has the power to revitalize and strengthen a relationship in new and profound ways. And even if you and your partner never put cuckolding into practice, it can become an exciting part of your sexual fantasy repertoire. With an open-minded attitude and a sense of adventure, the possibilities are endless.
Every sexual relationship is different. However, some sexual fetishes are very different, and this is one of them. It turns out relationships that experiment with cuckolding are very much on the rise, and psychologists can’t quite figure out why. Theories abound everywhere, but the men and women taking part in the world of cuckolding don’t really care why they like it, they just do. On top of that, more and more people are discovering cuckolding as something they like. It doesn’t matter much why people like it. There are a ton of reasons and any one of them could apply to any man who likes getting cuckolded. The important thing is that everyone is enthusiastically consenting and everyone is having fun.
In general the term interracial when used with cuckolding most often refers to single black males enjoying white wives with their husbands support and encouragement.
Interracial is a niche within the cuckolding lifestyle where the only real difference is a couple’s preference or custom of choosing black lovers. Otherwise, progression of the lifestyle extends much the same as any cuckold relationship. Due in part to the commonly accepted view of black sexual superiority blacks are expected to be dominant sexually and this is one component that many couples are looking for and one reason they sometimes gravitate to interracial.
The contrast alone between a dark lover and a white wife can be an immense thrill for both the wife and her white husband. For some couples, the taboo of interracial adds a significant element to the experience while for others taboo isn’t much of an issue. There’s no guarantee that the black suitor a wife is considering inviting inside her will have longer, thicker cock than her husband, but the combination of contrast and size can provide more than just double the thrill for many couples.
Well, size isn’t immaterial, of course, but it’s not everything. Just as all blacks aren’t exceptionally hung, whites aren’t all less than average. Most white husbands are of average size (5,5″) and many are even larger than that. Still, size alone cannot guarantee what a woman needs sexually. Even should her husband be full sized & possess the stamina needed, he still has a small white penis between his legs and can never offer the experience going black can provide his wife.
Many cuckolds to wives with a black cock preference find it easier to accept being limited or weaned from sex as it is apparent that no matter what they are capable of, they cannot offer her the cock she wants.
For nearly all husbands in this lifestyle being a direct witness to the act between his wife and another man is an ideal occurrence they want and should experience. As with many other aspects of this lifestyle, compromise is called for here. Though many wives are thrilled from the start to enjoy the cock of another man in front of their husband, not all are equally enthused. Some feel overly self-conscious about being watched during the act and therefore deny their cuckold this pleasure. Others are simply selfish. Even though husbands almost always desire to watch, it’s a double-edged sword. The cuckold wants to watch for one or more of the following reasons:
- It’s very erotic, from a voyeur’s perspective;
- It provides visual detail for them when they mentally visualize their wives with their lover;
- it can be the culmination of years of fantasizing
But, as with most things, there are also elements of watching your wife offer her most intimate pleasures to another man which can be quite difficult:
- Being in the presence of the male the wife has chosen as a sexual superior is very humbling;
- Being present invites opportunity for the wife and/or the lover to further exercise the cuckold’s humbling;
- The wife has the opportunity to make her husband witness the fruits of his own fantasy which can often be well beyond what he imagined.
How often should he get to watch? This is simply a guide and other factors can be taken into account, but as a general rule, for every three times the wife enjoys a sexual experience outside the marriage, one should be witnessed by her husband.
For most cuckolds, little is more precious than being able to clearly imagine in his mind, what it looks like when his wife is with her boyfriend. Of course they will imagine if that’s all they have, but it’s so much more rewarding to know for himself what it looks like when his wife has her small hands wrapped around the big cock of her boyfriend in a manner he may have never experienced himself.
Humiliation is part of cuckolding because it is a form of power exchange. In our culture it’s a submissive act to allow someone to humble you – especially for a male. I say humble because humiliation has this connotation of extreme acts when it’s simply a matter of deferring to another and nothing more.
The general stereotype of a cuckold is: he has a small penis which more resembles a wild mushroom than a potent male sex organ. Are there cuckolds like this? Absolutely. Is this the majority of men whose wives have or should be riding a much more capable organ? Hardly. In the case of such a tiny penis it goes without question that size matters, but for husbands who are better hung and are fully capable of pleasuring their wife through intercourse, the motivation and ‘necessity’ for cuckolding becomes a bit more clouded – especially for the wife who may not perceive an issue worthy of inviting another male into the marriage.
A husband whose penis stiffens when told it’s small and ineffective as a sex organ is naturally sexually submissive. Humiliation is an integral part of cuckolding because it is an overt way for the cuckold to express submission. A non-submissive male would react aggressively to being told he is less capable sexually, so to accept that humiliation is to submit. To prove this, one need only tease a cuckold who is of average or below average size and see how they become swollen and needy to understand that it’s not really about the truth of the statement as much as it is about the effect of the statement.
The truth is that it’s the submissive role he plays that is the true source of his need to be her cuckold and not any perceived inadequacy. It’s also true that regardless of his size, stamina or ability to bring her to orgasm during intercourse, her husband can never offer her the same experience a different lover can. When you factor in the fantasy of taking a black lover to increase the contrast of both roles and race between husband and lover, you find a situation the husband could never directly provide, regardless of his size and stamina.
A husband who has 7″ will feel even more cuckolded by a man of 8″ than a husband having only 5″ simply due to the perception of having been better than average hung, yet now he is ‘small’. Though not technically true, when his wife takes a lover who is larger in any dimension, it becomes an effective verbal and visual taunt which will certainly exercise the cuckold’s submissive needs.
As stated earlier, size or performance isn’t always the best justification when proposing a cuckold lifestyle to a wife who thinks status quo is just fine. After all, her favourite flavour of ice cream isn’t the only flavour she’ll eat and it’s only her favourite until a new flavour strikes her fancy more than the last favourite! (Vanilla versus Chocolate?). To justify my argument watch the video link below.